Copies of Integrating IFS into EMDR Therapy stacked on a side table

Books & Articles

What I write, and who I write it for.

I have been writing about trauma treatment for as long as I have been teaching it. Continuing education curriculum since 2016, published work on the IFS model, EMDR, countertransference, mindfulness, and ancestral healing, and two books.

The clinical writing comes out of my own sessions. The rest comes out of a question I hear constantly, from clients and from people who are not in therapy at all, which is how to know whether to stay in a relationship or leave it.

The Books

For trauma treatment, and relationships.

I developed my own way of bringing the IFS model together with EMDR, worked out session by session with my own clients. Then I wrote the step-by-step guide to it. My second book is for anyone trying to decide whether to stay in their relationship or leave it.

Integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) into EMDR Therapy

The Step-by-Step Guide to Complex Trauma Recovery
PESI Publishing
Available through Amazon, PESI, and Psychotherapy Networker.

For clinicians treating complex trauma. The integration written out phase by phase, so you can keep it open beside you and work from it between sessions. It came from my own caseload before it came from a publisher.

Part of Me Wants to Leave, Part of Me Wants to Stay

How to Know If It's Time to End Your Relationship

For anyone deciding whether to stay in a relationship or leave it. It walks through naming what you are feeling, practicing self-compassion, making room for grief, and identifying your values so the decision comes from them. It also covers what comes next, whether you re-invest in the relationship or end it.

Articles + Insights from Daphne Fatter, PhD

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Oct 20th, 2026
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What is an example of how to use an IFS intervention in Phase 4 EMDR Reprocessing?

When EMDR Phase 4 reprocessing loops, a blocking belief held by a protector part is often the reason. Here is a brief IFS interweave that helps the client get unstuck, and why returning to reprocessing afterward matters.
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May 4th, 2025
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What Are The 8 Phases of EMDR?

EMDR is unlike almost any other form of therapy. A walk through all eight phases, from history taking and preparation to desensitization, installation, the body scan, and reevaluation.
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Jun 12th, 2023
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Why Connecting With Your Ancestors Is An Important Step To Healing

Intergenerational trauma and ruptured family relationships can leave you feeling unmoored. How ancestral lineage repair works, from exploring your lineage to connecting with a well ancestral guide and healing your family line.